I’ve found that moving on from a relationship is a process that happens in stages. Given the time it takes to carve out room in your life for someone special, it makes sense that it’s a process to reconfigure the space created by his exit.
From my shorter romances (4-6 months) to my one-year+ entanglements with the opposite sex, I’ve experienced time and again the exhilaration of leaving a relationship comfortably in the past. Here are some of my moving on milestones -- By The Numbers:
Average number of breakups per boyfriend before final split: 2
Number of exes with whom I managed to make the lengthy transition to being just friends: 4
Number of exes with whom I’m still friendly: 1
Number of meals spent celebrating my Match.com ex’s nuptials and dodging the bullet of Mr. Wrong: 1
escaping Mr. Wrong
Number of years it took me to part with jewelry from my first love: 3
Number of years it took to discard many of his cards and letters: 10
One of my favorite post-relationship books, The Breakup Repair Kit, advises having a ceremonial bonfire of ex-boyfriend mementos. I’ve opted instead to hold onto some souvenirs of the past. Partly because I’m a packrat and partly because even when Mr. Right For Now turns out be Mr. Wrong, it’s good to have tangible reminders that love is always worth the gamble.