Friday, May 29, 2009

Dating Boot Camp: The Look Men Love

Tuesday night, I headed over to Lord & Taylor for Dating Boot Camp with married NYC matchmaking duo and bestselling authors Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal.

After grabbing a glass of free champagne, I took my seat among the sassy audience of about 125 women for a lively two-hour session about “The Look Men Love.”

Dating Boot Camp: Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal with (left) Cosmopolitan editor Ky Henderson and YourTango.com's Tom Miller

Citing a poll of 5,000 singles, Matt and Tamsen confirmed what most of us already know – looks are what attracts a man first (versus financial status and personality, the top two draws for women). And nothing’s sexier than confidence. The kind of confidence, they said, always exemplified by the Bond Girl.

Of the many tips Matt and Tamsen offered women on the prowl (always look your best, maximize your assets, etc.), my favorite was about keeping your eyes open.

“Lift your head and put it on a swivel,” Matt said. “You can’t schedule love.”

He’s right. Especially in a city like New York, you can never underestimate the power of looking around. Smiling at a stranger, or even being bold enough to say hello, can lead to a surprise connection. If nothing else, it offers the opportunity to flirt – a skill that’s always fun to practice.

Coming up…Q&A with the man panel at Dating Boot Camp and dreaming big during a girls night out.

1 comment:

Tamera said...

Interesting tip from Matt about getting a guy's attention, "lift your head and keep it on a swivel."

I have a single girlfriend who upon entering any space where there are men, slowly scans the room and makes eye contact with any guy she finds interesting.

She does this when she goes out with her fellow single girlfriends and we think it's rude. She mentally separates herself from the group (you can't really talk to her at this point) while you are standing right next to her.

She'll even point out to the group which guys are "hers." Alot of the girls don't want to hang out with her anymore.

I guess Matt would say, "Go Girl!" I think she's obsessed with finding a mate and not living a balanced life with good friends who will be their to support her.